As you may know, I am a licensed local pastor in the United Methodist denomination. Sometimes, I have to preach at Growth Co.’s anchor church – West Church LKN. This past Sunday was one of those times. It’s a totally different experience than what we offer at Growth Co., but it’s just as amazing. Today’s On Draft post is going to be a written version of my notes from Sunday’s message on Time Management.
It’s ironic of me to be thinking I can provide any advice or teachings on time management, because I have no time management. But, what I was able to find after researching and putting together into notes was transformational for me. I want to share those things with you today with hopes that it can be transformation for you, too.
I’ve inserted the link, but will give a quick summary of what it says:
“3 Time Management Tips I Learned from Jesus”
Jesus Focused on What Was in Front of Him in the Moment
He listened, focused and took care of the tasks where he was without being distracted by what was happening elsewhere.
Jesus Didn’t Worry about What Was Going Undone
He knew it would be done when it was time to do it
He had in mind a specific time and place where those needs would be taken care of.
Jesus Didn’t Try To Achieve “Balance”
He had no concept of “balance”
He was guided wherever his needs were most needed for that moment
At different times he would mentor the disciples, school the Pharisees and honor his Mother and Father.
*But he didn’t try to do them all at once, or give them equal effort all the time*
These concepts were amazing to me, ESPECIALLY #3!
How many of us say that we have poor time management because we haven’t mastered the art of “Balance”?
Jokes on us!!!
“Balance” is the greatest time management myth. Do you know what “balance” means? It means applying equal effort to all things at all times. Really?? No wonder we feel so guilty when we fall short of that ideal “balance”. If balance is what we seek, we are set up for failure from the beginning.
Lucky for us, there is still hope! Have you ever heard of the Pareto Principle?
If time management if one of your skills that has room for improvement, there are plenty of tools and resources to help you be successful. Like I said, it is probably the #1 thing I struggle with in my life currently, so I am right there with you!!
If you do NOT struggle with time management…I need you. Haha!
Typically when I’m writing an “On Draft” post, I’ll search around and read other articles to collect thoughts and inspiration. I knew for this week, it would be awesome to share some thoughts around volunteering as a young adult. In my search for thoughts and inspiration, I stumbled upon this article. I read it. Then I listened to it. Then read it again!
I stared at the screen for a little while before I realized that there was no way I could piece together a better article than the one I was reading.
This was hands down, one of (if not THE) best articles around volunteering as a young adult that I have ever read. The points in this piece are beautiful, encouraging and something we should all read.
I don’t want to shame you if you aren’t volunteering, I know we all just trying to take life day by day. However, this article at least will bring awareness to some REAL benefits of volunteering. I really hope you read it.
I have something really fun and special to share with you today. For our folks who have received the FREE subscription box in the past, this is a revamp of that experience! For those who are newer/have not received a FREE subscription box, this is an introduction for you!
Introducing: The 6 Pack!
A FREE subscription box experience via mail or front door delivery, no matter where you live! “The 6 Pack” experience encourages you to think INSIDE the box. For each message series or theme, we provide a correlating FREE subscription box. “The 6 Pack” contains content that relates to the theme that allows for interactive conversations and activities. We ensure that the materials offered are practical, engaging, memorable, and fun. The items are designed for self-paced self reflection or group interaction.
We chose the name “The 6 Pack” to align with our brewery theme. The subscription box has 6 tangible items in it that relate to the theme of the box. Along with the tangible items are “Staff Picks/Growth Materials”. Growth Co.’s leadership team consists of 6 amazing people – Julian, Layne, Lindsay, Sabrina, Hannah & Lexi. The Staff Picks consist of an intentional passage written by Lexi, paired with Reflection Questions, Bible Verses & Quotes chosen by the team – all centered around the theme of the box.
WHO’S THE 6 PACK FOR:
We offer “The 6 Pack” to all Growth Co. members. Its purpose is to serve as a resource to you, so it’s completely your decision if you’d like to receive it. Please know you are loved and welcomed into the Growth Co. family with or without a subscription to “The 6 Pack”! The same stands in reverse: you are more than welcome to receive “The 6 Pack” without participating in any gatherings (via zoom or in-person). If this is your only choice of involvement with Growth Co., we accept and respect that! We love having you be a part of the family – regardless of what it looks like!
HOW TO RECEIVE THE 6 PACK:
To sign up to receive the box – please text “pack” to (704)-476-1050 and fill in your information!
As always, we hope this is another pathway in which you can FILL YOUR CUP 🙂
I hope you had a great start to your week, and if not, it’s only Monday – plenty of time to turn the week around!
I’m currently on vacation with my husband and family for the first time this year. Tony and I have been married for almost 2 years and haven’t went on a real vacation together (we couldn’t afford a honeymoon during COVID – and still working on it). It has been AMAZING so far, but to be honest, I’m struggling to actually relax…
Do you feel like you struggle to relax? I feel guilty, or my brain continues to think of the million other things I could/should be doing. The world has forced us to “grind” all day everyday, without teaching us how to properly relax to create the perfect combination of work/life balance in our lives. I can’t speak for everyone, but I have personally fallen victim to believing we’ve been DISCOURAGED to learn how to enjoy simplicity. No one else is struggling to relax on this vacation, so maybe it’s just me!! 😂
I feel so guilty when I can’t be on my highest emotional, physical, intellectual functioning level at all times – this is so unhealthy. All day today, I’ve been wondering what I will sit here and type while I was TRYING to enjoy the beach (work free). It hit me like the rowdy waves of the ocean (which have totally kicked my ass) – why don’t we have a blog about learning to relax in our 20s/30s. This sounds all good and dandy, but I think there can also be a fine line between relaxing and being lazy/unproductive. I never want to be on the blurred line of those options, but I fight it so much, that I’m always on the complete opposite side of never relaxing AT ALL.
I don’t want this to be another cheesy blog about tips on how to relax.
I’d love for us to hear and share real life experiences from one another on how we’ve learned to relax over the years. OR, if you’re like me and you’re still struggling to learn this balance, share that as well.
I look forward to hearing from all of you, and invite you to write a post for “On Draft” regarding any life topics or funny stories you’d like to share that you believe can be transformational for someone else.
We believe this is a unique way to pour into and connect with ourselves and others in honest ways. We look forward to sharing this journey with you!
As always, it is our hope that you can #fillyourcup 🙂
Just a reminder that Growth Co. has 3 development categories we focus on: Personal, Spiritual & Communal. This post of “On Draft” will highlight all 3! Yay! The other night, I was wondering what people say are the most important things to know, apply or learn as a young adult. This simple google search landed me on an article called “Things to Start Doing in Your 20s so You Don’t Live in Regret in Your 40s”.
To our buddies in their 30s, this is NOT a diss!! These are applicable to ALL 🙂
This quote caught my eye “They say the youth is wasted on the youth”. I can’t speak for everyone, but I know for me – personally – I can struggle with feeling like I should be so much further in my life accomplishments OR I’m still so young and have so much life to live! I found these points helpful. I will simply list them, so that we can spark conversation around them genuinely. I look forward to the conversations we will have!!
Learn to love and accept yourself.
Learn to say no with confidence.
Take more risks.
Pull the trigger (don’t fear failure).
Turn your weaknesses into strengths.
Learn to negotiate with politeness.
Don’t compare yourself to others.
Don’t be afraid to change directions.
Don’t rack up debt.
Don’t burn your bridges.
Don’t try to think of the future as some kind of stopping point for fun things
Do not spend one more minute of your life with someone who makes you feel like you are less than you are.
Take care of your body.
Don’t get caught up in the cycle of buying expensive things to keep up with the Joneses.
Build upon friendships.
Don’t rush to cram stuff into your 20s because you think you should.
Here’s the list! 17 life changing lessons, according to the holy Google.
My name is Lexi Hernandez and I am the Pastor here at Growth Co. We prioritize building meaningful and lasting relationships with one another, because we know how important community is for ALL people, but in this case, especially for those of us in our 20s/30s. This is a world designed to praise the individual…but WE weren’t designed that way, so you can see where conflict may arise. I just turned 26 last week, and I wanted to share some thoughts on what it’s like trying to build friendships in a world that encourages us to be the King/Queen of our own life, with little regard for others.
I read a book called “Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World.” by Jennie Allen. It has completely changed my outlook on life and friendship.
In the first few pages, there is the paragraph below that just blew me away. It says:
IT HASN’T ALWAYS BEEN THIS WAY.
In nearly every generation since creation began, people have lived in small communities, hunting together, cooking together, taking care of their kids together. No locks, no doors. They shared communal fires outdoors and long walks to get water, doing their best to survive day by day. People were rarely alone. They lived communally, in shared spaces, with a variety of generations present – leveraging each other’s talents, sharing each other’s resources, knowing each other’s business, caring for each other’s family members, holding each other accountable, and having each other’s backs 0 not just to stay alive, but also in an effort to live more fulfilled…together.
Prior to COVID, in 2019, a study was published showing that 3 out of 5 people considered themselves lonely. Emphasis on the word “prior”. Could you imagine what that statistic might be now? The thoughts are absolutely devastating. There should be zero shock to anyone on this planet that collectively, all living humans right now are experiencing some of the worst and highest cases of anxiety, depression and suicide. Like I mentioned, this world has become one designed to encourage loneliness.
So let’s share some hope…
Feeling seen, heard, accepted, and encouraged are some of the greatest feelings in this life. Knowing this, when I think about how many people in my life truly help me feel those ways, I’m saddened by the reality of the number. I love a lot of people. I easily extend grace to them and love them through their struggles. Except, there are only a few people in this world who I allow to FULLY know me. What if we started actively letting people know us better. Sharing more parts of ourselves, regardless of rejection. The reward of being fully known is always greater than the risk of being hurt. How can we do this?
Allen gives practical and applicable advice on how to help us build friendships. The first step is to notice. This requires close to nothing from us! It’s an observation of the people around you in the places that you already are. For example, as I type this I’m in the same room as my husband, Tony. He’s on his phone, I’m on my computer. We’re not speaking, and are essentially living 2 individual lives in the same physical space. This happens EVERYWHERE you go. Think of class, the coffee shop, work, grocery store, gas station, etc. There are always other people sharing spaces with you. Just look around!
In order to form true friendships/relationships, you may have to experience some awareness. GREAT! Yes, that’s great! No growth happens in your comfort zone, and feeling awkward means you are out of your comfort zone, and we love to see that! Invite someone to go places with you that you are already going to. This step isn’t asking you to add more social events to your calendar, rather, making what’s already on your calendar, more social. If you’re going to get gas, groceries, coffee, etc. invite someone to go with you! Car rides can be one of the best places to bond with people. If from step 1 you begin to notice the same people at the locations you frequent, start a conversation with them. Ask if they’d like to sit with you.
I know this will be a complete turn off for some people who consider themselves more introverted, but I promise your life will be FULL from it.
This is totally my personal opinion, but I believe that the cancel culture is so incredibly harmful for our mental health. We’ve unintentionally learned to serve only ourselves and to shew away any inconvenience that comes our way. This is also teaching us that healthy conflict is NOT possible. We’re losing our ability to practice saying things such as “I’m sorry” / “Will you forgive me” / “I forgive you” / “Let’s talk this through” / “I value our friendship, I want to fix this”.
We should practice learning how to stay when things get difficult in a friendship. This does NOT mean to excuse mental or physical abuse. Rather, learn to react to inconveniences in healthy ways, because we ARE human.
It’s possible to build deep and meaningful friendships in today’s world. Community is necessary for our well being. Let’s be intentional about creating it for ourselves and for those around us.
In what ways can you practice noticing, initiating, and staying in your life?
Thank you for reading this week’s “On Draft” Blog Post!
We’d love to have you write a featured blog for “On Draft”! It can be about any and everything you’d like. This is a space for fellow 20s/30s to share ideas, ask questions and explore with one another. If you’d be interested in writing for “On Draft” – please email Lexi Hernandez at email@example.com or text us at (704)-476-1050.